I’m struggling to work out whether now is a good time to relocate from somewhere that I’ve lived for over 30 years to somewhere I don’t know a soul, to be closer to my kids. My OH is agin it. He can’t understand that I want to be nearer to them so that I can help more or even just be closer in case they have an emergency. Now if I visit, I have to plan ahead so that I have at least 3 days clear to include travelling up and down the country. I think it’s beginning to drive a wedge between us. What are your thoughts on this?
I'd stay put if I were you. 30 years is a long time in a house full of memories and by my own emotional state after leaving a house after only 14, I gauge this advise. If you get it wrong, there's no going back. I think moving when you are feeling concerned over things is never the best choice as your head isn't thinking clearly. The grandchildren will grow quickly and be more portable on journeys to your house in a matter of a few years. Maybe a move in the future will be nice but also if you move for the benefit of another family member, how do you know that they themselves won't up and relocate somewhere else because of work etc, in a few years themselves. Think very carefully, moving is such an upheaval and worry.
Moving can be surprising .My old neighbors back in Louisville moved to Philadelphia to be near their son & grandkids.I remember hearing them complaining about the clearing out of their place & packing .In the end they came to love Philadelphia .Maybe you will take to the area your son stays in.
Gracie, we had lived in our last home for over 30 years. We moved to be closer to family. We didn't have anyone close by in our last home. Hubs had been really poorly and it was a 3 to 4 hour journey before anyone could come. Yes, we missed the area and friends. Yes it has taken a while to settle. It's been a good move for us, friends are supportive, but they have their own families who must take priority. It's lovely being close to family, especially our little granddaughter. Hubs really struggles, health wise, so I find it reassuring that family are just a few minutes away.
Never drive faster than your guardian angel can fly.
I think everyone elses advice has been a lot better than mine Gracie, I think that I based my wisdom on the fact that I still miss my old home and not factored in the family thing. I'm still emotional over the whole thing. Whatever happens though, don't fall out with your OH over it, you two need to be a team
Good to read all your comments. We will be down south again in a couple of weeks and I plan on doing a bit of visiting of towns we don’t know. In the meantime my OH wants to put a new kitchen in here! Got to get a move on with my plan!