I understand your concerns Jazzy, you want it to be a private space to say whatever you like and like you and VW, sometimes I feel a little concerned. For me personally it's to do with my ex husband, you just never know, his wife could stumble across this and I'd never know it was her. Took me years to get some privacy from them and I value what I have on here.
Can I throw this into the ring for admin?.......Is it possible to make Behind closed doors, the bedroom into invitation only? Keeping health and beauty available after 20 or so posts in case someones looking for support on health issues. If The bedroom was invitation only after a period of time and regular posting then we could feel comfortable bitching about our in-laws, I have so much to say
Is any of this possible LL and what do lovely girls think?
Privacy is not something I have an issue with, this is a weeny forum, with a weeny presence on the net. My name is Cherry and I live in Yorkshire, is all that I have really shared. How much can they learn about 'who i am', and who precisely I am talking about.
However, if it makes the rest of you feel more secure, then i would be happy with the invitation only suggestion, it's a good one.
I understand its only a teeny weeny forum but the size is not the problem. In my mind it goes like this..
My blabbermouth OH forgets this is a little private sanctuary for me, he loves to talk, oh how he loves to talk to everybody and anybody, he has no filter! The amount of times he's told people about this forum, mostly when he's at work and he has to drive a member somewhere and the conversation turns into things about friends or computers etc. He tells me, "I was talking to a lady today and she was saying about forums etc and I told her "my wife is part of a forum it's called blah blah blah blah" Now he's a local man, talking to local people who seems to know everyone in all the villages and surrounding market towns, so I've told him to stop doing that, people only have to talk to a few other people and it could land in the wrong hands, namely ex's hands.
Also he told his sister I was part of a great little forum, she should go take a look, I interjected before he gave her the name and said I doubt it's your cup of tea though and changed the subject. On the way home, I asked him if he was insane, I'd been chatting about the out laws in the bedroom and really didn't need her joining!
So this is how I so easily see my business being peeped at by unwelcome people. I may be the Princess of Paranoia but OH has made me like this.
Last Edit: Sept 17, 2019 13:57:36 GMT by Bellatrix
There is a lot to be said for being part of a group, and the support and friendship that is gained from this.
I once recommended the forum to someone ( they didn't join) but afterwards I realised I hadn't thought it through and now I may mention that I'm on a women's forum but I never say the name of it.
I must admit I post on here without thinking about who's going to read it. I always assume that it's just those of you who I consider my friends. Now you've made me realise that loads of strangers could be just reading and not commenting it's made me feel a little uneasy. I think I'd like more stringent measures put in place for some of the rooms.
I'd have to change my way of viewing the forum though as with tapatalk the default is for it to just show the threads that I've not read and it doesn't say anything about which room it's come from. I know it can be done.
Sorry to come late to the party, I've been away on hols, but I too have been concerned about being easily identified if one of my sisters for example came across the forum. I have always spoken very frankly about family stuff, and I know for sure they'd recognise my nickname and if they looked back at previous posts they'd know it was me.
I get disappointed by the number of times a new member appears, makes one or two posts - gets a warm welcome then disappears completely. Call me a sceptic, but I can't help but question their motives. I don't want to stop people from joining, and I still wonder what happened to some of our old friends who disappeared when the forum changed a while back, but I really do think of the women on here as being genuine people who I know (even though I've not actually met them in real life) and I am a bit protective to make sure we don't get bogus members (which has happened before - remember the guy asking how to wash his wife's undies!!)
Thanks Did wonder, If I may from the other side of the argument,,,
I’ve been I guest here for sometime and have enjoyed the forum esp domestic advice and such like. I joined today I now have a personal causing me slight anxiety ( not mucky lol ) so I decide to join, I have made rapid posts to enable me to post or so I thought, but am not able,
That said I do agree with all the previous concerns
Hi Angela. Welcome to the forum and very pleased that you have enjoyed it as a guest so far. Am I right to assume that it was the ‘Behind Closed Doors’ section? Due to the discussion above, the number of posts required to enter has now been increased. Health, Beauty & Well-being remains at 20 posts so you can post there if you wish.