Post by galaxya on Dec 18, 2021 14:01:50 GMT
Hi,
How would anyone fell, if you are left alone with not just one but four children of the age of 3-4 with no one around supporting you?
You make a terribly bad decision to run some urgently needed errands before bringing you children to school. You just think it won't take longer then 10 - 15 min.
I know, I know. It is a terrible idea to leave such young children alone, but young people nowadays lack earlier experience with younger children due to not having younger siblings. I am not a mother, but I grew up with smaller siblings and I see that a lot of people my age don't have a clue or experience when it comes to child care and have to learn everything from scratch once they get their first child/ren.
I also feel society is loosing the comprehension of the importance of a family beyond mother and father that is required to raise a child properly. Not to mention a duplet of twins so young and so close in age to each other.
It takes a village to raise a child.
What I think what happens now in the UK is, that due to the recent cases of child neglect resulting in death due to physical abuse, people and police are jumping into wrong conclusions and are wrongly accusing parents of being toxic parents.
I have seen people online calling the poor woman bad names not even knowing what really happens. Media also headline the story with 'Mother being arrested for neglect' or similar head lines.
I don't think this is fair. This seems to me a total different case and I am really worried about what this woman is going through now and all the toxicity the online community is going to post about this woman just because it is a popular topic now in the UK.
Imagine you are challenged by guilt leaving your beloved children alone and knowing they died under horrible circumstances and being put under police arrest.
But what this topic also highlights is, how woman are left alone by society. Why was a woman of four not entitled to some sort of support to help her in the morning with her children?
Where was the rest of the family?
Why do people even assume that woman should be capable to deal with their children on their own and if something goes wrong she is accused of being a bad mum?
Pregnancy doesn't turn us into superheroes. We might strive becoming one, but at the end we fail to most extend because we are just humans.
There is a difference between a mother who did a mistake and a mother who doesn't care for her children.
Their was also an other case a couple of months ago, that didn't receive large media attention. A father in this case went to socialise in the neighbourhood and left his twin daughters alone and they died in a fire also. But they did treat him like a victim and not like a killer.
It is so sad.
I don't know. This case is upsetting to me. This woman will never be able to google her own name without reading all the mean things written about her in the worst hours of her live.
Not one word of condolence where mentioned to her in public. Just because people jump into dangerous conclusions.
Maybe it turns out she did really left the kids out of carelessness. But for now I think neither the authorities nor the people should treat her like a criminal.
The boys were happy and no one saw any signs of neglect. So different to the other cases where children got beaten to death.
I think in the western society we should really fight for more support for mothers who have to raise their children on their own. I am pretty sure those kids wouldn't be dead now, if the mother would have got proper support at home.
Four children this age are a massive challenge. And not to forget these where her biological children. She gave birth twice within a year to twins. This is such a special case, any mother in such a situation should have gotten special support if family and friends were not able to do so.
But it should also teach us that people should always offer a helping hand for mothers and help having an eye on children.
It is a pitty. Now adays people don't have neighbours to help if family isn't around.
I feel sorry for every single mother loosing her children while fighting to raise them.
I had to get this out of my system. It is really depressing me.
My thoughts are with the mother and the rest of the family. May those little boys rest in heaven. 
hope we are all enjoying a brill weekend, will catch up later xx
who is going through the mill at the mo, wishing you a very speedy recovery Trisha big luv 
storm brewing, must get me cauldron out 
