Moi, we have three grandchildren. The two older boys, now young men and MUCH taller than I am, live approximately 300 miles away from us. I love to hear about their hobbies, studdies and friends. They still ruffle my hair and call me granny. Unfortunately, we can't get to see them as often as we would like. I have been called a cool granny, our daughter in law said that was high praise indeed. Ooh go me! Our little granddaughter (now just over three) lives just under 10 minutes away. We obviously have a much closer relationship. Do I love one more than the other, no I don't. Any differences? Yes. My older boys can both lift me up.
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I posted on this earlier....or so I thought but it hasn't appeared
Anywho, you're a lovely grannie Trisha My mum has her favourites, I can tell! In all she has 7 grandchildren there is 1 grandchild she doesn't like very much...thank goodness it's not one of my lot, she has a completely different tone with that one. The one she doesn't like much, is the one I make a special fuss of just to balance things out when there's a big family get together.
I definitely don't have a favourite - however, some I see more than others because of distance and parents busy lives so I know them better if that makes sense. The baby lived with us half of the week for 8 months and we still have him every Wednesday so I suppose we are more involved in his life than the others just because we see more of him - I hope my other sons don't think he's a favourite though!
Something I think grandparents need to be careful about is setting their grandchildren up against each other. I remember my own paternal grandparents would come over to our house and do nothing but sing the praises of one or another of my cousins, it used to get on my nerves - now my in-laws do the same to my kids, their cousins are always doing so well and are so clever etc etc. I suppose they may say similar things to them and make them feel resentful too ........ but probably not.
My ex's parents were awful grandparents. That was bad enough, but they thought they were wonderful, coz they bought lots of stuff at birthdays and xmases.
I doubt if there was a lot of regret, at my loss, from then when I left their son. They certainly never offered to have anything to do with my daughter except when she was visiting him.
My own mum was sort of adequate as a grandparent, and I remember apologising to my daughter as I had a great gran and grandad. She replied: "Thanks for saying that, I always used to find it odd, when people were talking so fondly of their grandparents. I thought there was something wrong with me."
She has a good soul, she attended both of their funerals even though they are all the way down south in Sussex. He only died a few months back. She was such an "interesting person" that I find it hard to believe she is actually dead. I am sure you all remember the final scene in Carrie?